Pisces Paradox

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Anonymous wrote: "i was the one who asked about the pisces with ascendant in scorpio and rising in sagitarius , my bf is a virgo with ascendant in scorpio and rising in sagitarius, he opened up to me from the beginning and it's easy for for him to cry in front of me , to be himself but when it comes to me to open up its terrible, i've been hurt in the past and i don't want to show my weakness i can't stand the feeling of having to loose someone again, i dont know what to do about myself...."

Okay, so, I feel as though I really ought to say something to you. Have you ever heard of a self-fulling prophecy? I mean, you probably have somewhere, but, have you ever explored what it really means? In depth? 

Let me explain, you’re worried and scared about losing someone again, and since you don’t know what to do with yourself, I’m personally willing to bet you’re going to retreat within yourself and remain unwilling to open up and show your “vulnerable side.” Your “weaknesses,” as you put them. But if you’re not opening up to your partner, this could just as easily push your partner away. 

Now, that’s probably not what you want to hear. But, now, back to the whole self-fulling prophecy bit. If you stay closed up, with the mindset of “I can’t show my weaknesses, I can’t be hurt again,” and continue like that, it’s very possible your boyfriend might dislike that. I mean, I obviously don’t know him— but if he’s opening up to you, and showing you his emotional side, and you’re closed off… that to me speaks to different styles of communication, and he might feel as though he’s not getting enough emotional satisfaction from you. 

Now, I’m just worried he could leave because of that. And you’d lose him because of that. And you “can’t stand the feeling of having to lose someone again,"— but in a self-fulling prophecy, you’d be back, blaming it on "your weaknesses” or something you did that reflects on an old behavior. 

I’m trying to get you to look at this new behavior, of not opening up. 

I’m not trying to make it seem like either way you choose is a bad decision.  I think if I were in your shoes, and I heard that, I’d be like, “Great. So either way, if I hide myself or show myself, I’m screwed.” No. No no no. I’m trying to get you to see there are possible pros and cons to both behaviors, and it varies with the individual. In the past, maybe you did value someone who didn’t like being exposed to the Piscean, watery, emotional behavior. But that doesn’t mean you have to shut it off. It means they weren’t the right person for you. 

You say you don’t know what to do with yourself, and I say try your best to be yourself, as you would naturally, in nature, had you not been initially hurt. Now, I know that’s… like, “What? How can I possibly do that? I can’t just toss that away and pretend like it never happened.” I know. But, your boyfriend wasn’t the one who hurt you, was he? Give him a chance to see a little bit of you opening up. It doesn’t have to be huge— talk about little, trivial things at first that might secretly have a larger meaning to you. Like, I dunno, maybe the way you interpret a song. Start with little things. You can do it, c: It’ll be tough and uncomfortable at first. But if you two are truly a good match, you’ll be fine. 






"But here’s the thing about Pisces: deep down they’re real romantics, even though they prefer their own private fish bowl and they don’t like it being disrupted that much. They just love that whole idea of connectedness, that merging with another. They could probably be with anybody. But relationships aren’t easy when you’re a fish—you want to be close to someone and you like the whole sensual thing, but you don’t want someone around too much because it can become irritating and maddening. And fish don’t like being mad. They get mad at themselves for getting mad."

- Debra Silverman 

(Source: debrasilvermanastrology.com)


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June Horoscope for Pisces 

OVERVIEW

Are you somehow stuck in a rut? Are you doing the same old thing over and over and over, in a relationship or at work or in some other part of your life? Well, if so, then the 1st is a great day to change that. After all, summertime is one of the most productive and creative and joyous and life-affirming of seasons. So why not bring that energy to your own life path? You get lucky, but that doesn’t mean you should go out of your way to annoy your higher ups on the 4th and 5th. Your love life settles into a very good routine on the 10th, 11th and 12th. And your creative juices flow faster than ever! Yay! Verbal expressions of love, love and more love find their way into your life (and your heart) on the very romantic 15th, 16th and 17th. Love! Love! And more love! Definitely spend some time checking in on your health and wellness on the 23rd and 24th. After all, you need to take care of yourself! A couple of tricky days come your way on the 29th and 30th. Double check everything, and be aware of odd behavior: Someone might be seeking negative attention from you.

ROMANCE

If you’ve been feeling like something just needs to shift in your romantic life — whether that means that you need to reinvigorate an existing relationship, or fall in love, or fall in love all over again, or face the fact that you’ve fallen out of love, or whatever — the 1st is a great day to begin to enact that shift. After all, summer is hot, hot, hot. And heating things up is a great way bring about a little combustion! And combustion produces sure-fire change. Ask any scientist! A little luck goes a long way on the 4th and 5th. Your love life really seems to be shaping up nicely on the 10th, 11th and 12th. Use your creativity to express your loving feelings on the very romantic 15th, 16th and 17th. You do love working out, too, so get some exercise on the 23rd and 24th. After all, taking good care of yourself is bound to make you feel more romantic, in both the long and short terms. In any romance, problems happen. So don’t worry too much about what comes up on the 29th and 30th. It will pass.

BUSINESS

Time to make those changes in the work place on the 1st? The old dog has learned new tricks and you need to take it to the next level. You are ready! On the 4th and 5th you will be lucky, but remember to be gracious with your co-workers. Don’t rub in your success! But don’t hide it under a bushel, either. You will find the perfect balance. By the 10th, 11th and 12th, your work will flow powerfully, just like a mighty river to the ocean. The 15th, 16th and 17th will find the positive vibes you have created in full swing. Look for lots of love and success. It is important to check in with your physical self on the 23rd and 24th. The work place has taken a lot of mental effort and you can’t ignore the rest of your body. You need to take good care of yourself, mind, body and soul! That’s how you’ll do your best work. There may be some challenges in store on the 29th and 30th. You can handle these, because you will stay positive and recognize the hidden opportunities to be found in every bump along the way. 

FITNESS & HEALTH

If you are feeling a little foggy-minded and generally disoriented on the 1st, maybe it’s time to get yourself to a yoga class. Or a circus training camp. Or anywhere else that will train your balancing skills. Physical balance, after all, is a heck of a first step towards mental clarity. On the 2nd, consider some breathing exercises. By the 5th you are feeling a lot better, thanks to your proactive efforts. By the 9th, don’t strain yourself too much, but don’t slack off, either. On the 13th, a dance class might be just what the doctor ordered. What better way to get a little more mind/body balance? On the 15th, focus on your health and diet — figure out what you are doing, and what you should be doing. You might even want to get a checkup. On the 19th, a swim could do you good. After all, it’s summer! Jump in the lake and feel your body come alive. On the 24th, consider making some changes in your routine. If you workout on the 29th and 30th you’ll emerge from the showers feeling like a whole new person!

(Source: astrology.com)